Ready to marry your partner? Here are some things you need to consider before you tie the knot
Financial Status
A stable financial situation is essential, whether you are on your own or in a relationship. However, a problem might pop up when it’s time to consider whether your financial style is compatible with your partner’s. Different spending habits may pose an even bigger problem than, for example, a difference in earnings. That is why your financial priorities should match. If not, it can lead to major disagreements in your marriage since stable income is a key aspect when it comes to building a family. After all, as your family grows, your financial needs will too.
So, before making such drastic steps in your relationship, it’s important to discuss your individual financial needs and habits and their influence on financial status. There is no need to be Ebenezer Scrooge and clutch your wallet! Simply being more financially responsible will be a great and crucial first step!
Emotional Stability
Emotional stability might be the principal aspect of any relationship. For someone to be emotionally stable, they have to develop a steady and balanced way of interacting with life and its problems. It’s easy to understand why this is essential when it comes to living a healthy life. It’s also crucial for creating a relationship that can flourish into a good marriage. People who lack emotional stability can often be anxious and can create a source of negative emotions that can lead to conflicts. Whereas emotionally stable people tend to be secure, even-tempered, and with lower levels of stress.
In other words, they are capable of creating a healthier environment for themselves and their partners. Such an environment makes tackling problems much easier while also helping the relationship grow and evolve.
So, all in all, an emotionally stable relationship is one deemed to persevere!
Personal Growth and Development
What’s personal growth and development? Essentially, it’s a one-person journey to bettering yourself. Improvements in physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual aspects can all be achieved through the transformational process of personal growth and development. It’s no wonder then that these processes can have a major impact on a relationship.
A relationship should be a place of constant growth and improvement, and personal growth is a great place to start. Working on fixing your bad habits can also help with your sense of responsibility, actively assisting in making you a more reliable person — someone your partner can always lean on. However, growth and development don’t have to be a one-person effort.
This can be achieved through different means: bonding by doing things both you and your partner enjoy, taking part in activities your partner is fond of, discovering new hobbies and places you can experience together, etc. Of course, that doesn’t mean you need to be joined at the hip. Finding a good balance between your individual growth and the growth you experience with your beloved is crucial for a good relationship.
Family Bloodline and Heredity
Health is a top priority, but some things are out of our control. Or are they?
Knowing your family health history, as well as your partners, is a must. Most family bloodlines have illnesses or disorders that can be hereditary. While some things may not be as serious as others, it’s vital to do a bit of a deep dive into your family health history, just in case. It’s an unfortunate truth that an illness can lead to a downfall of a marriage, especially if it’s chronic. This kind of serious talk can always be a scary topic. However, it’s important to reevaluate whether a severe illness is something you or your partner can cope with. Similarly, when planning on building a family, health is an understandable concern. Prevention is the best medicine, they say, and it’s certainly true in this case!
Taking into account your family health history can give you valuable insight into both your health and the health of your future children. Ultimately, having this kind of talk can break or make a marriage. Nonetheless, with a good amount of support and communication, you and your partner can overcome these types of problems!
Current Relationship and Support System
You can’t do everything by yourself, right? Well, you don’t have to. We all deserve (and need) to have a proper support system, no matter what stage of life we are currently at. Marriage is a big step to take. You don’t need support only from your partner but also from friends and family to happily embark on that journey. Relying only on yourself, while admirable, can get exhausting and stressful. Humans are social creatures, and as such, we have always existed while relying on each other.
Building a family and raising children can also be easier and more efficient with a proper support system. The old proverb “It takes a village to raise a child” had it right all along. Whether it is with raising children or any other big step in a relationship, getting that support can be pivotal in helping your marriage flourish.
Why Are These Things Important?
You don’t go on a big trip without a suitcase packed to the brim with things you will surely need! Likewise, you shouldn’t make a significant change in your life, such as marriage, without making sure you’re entirely ready for it. Make sure you’re prepared to level up your relationship by carefully evaluating and taking everything into account. It will save you the stress over unresolved problems or tricky situations that occur due to bad planning.
Bad financial decisions can create tensions in your marriage and emotional instability will be a cause of constant stress. It will feel like walking on eggshells. Rejecting growth will make your relationship feel stuck in time and space, and it might cause problems to pile up. An undiscussed hereditary illness can also cause a huge tear in your marriage that you won’t be able to mend without a good support system. Putting potential problems on the back shelf for later, or completely ignoring them, could negatively impact your marriage.
Don’t fret, however! The good thing is that with proper communication, responsibility, and mutual understanding, difficulties like these can be solved or entirely evaded. So, with a bit of fixing and upping through some conversation and good old planning, you might be ready to take the plunge!